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Six ways to support someone who has lost their job

 

Because of the consequences of the greed of the rich and famous people whose challenge appears to be to see just how rich they can become, and sometimes some of the ways in which they go about becoming richer are not to the advantage of the general population, bankruptcies occur and bad things happen to good people.  Greed feeding upon greed results in the situation the world economic system we have now. There are many people who risk losing their jobs as big corporations tumble and many have lost their jobs already. You may know someone who has already lost their job and you may be avoiding them now, not because you are cruel and inhumane but because you do not know what to say to the person and may even feel guilty because you still have your job.  Here are six  ways you can help your friend, co-worker, former colleague, family member deal with their loss:

 

1.   Be available to your friend, invite him or her to call you whenever they feel like talking;

 

2.   Take the initiate to invite him or her once in a while for coffee or a movie and don’t make a big deal of it and don’t be coy about this say to your friend this one’s on  me, next time will be your turn;

 

3.   Admit that you may not know what’s they’re going through but it must be difficult and let them know that you are there in case they need you;

 

4.    Leave the giving of advice to the professionals what you need to do is to listen and when asked  for an opinion you give an honest answer and if you don’t know say

 so.  People know when you are being genuine and when you are being phony.

 

5.    Be a resource for them by passing on information about job leads, training opportunities and other resources that will increase your friend’s optimism and hope.

 

6.    Be optimistic without being glib and simplistic. If your friend is in the dumps do go there with them

 

 

“The power of positive thoughts enables others to be free from their worries. When someone is going through difficult times there would be naturally worry and tension. At such times it becomes very natural for us too to come into tension. However, we don't seem to be able to help the other person in anyway when we have such thoughts. Instead we only add to the negative thoughts of that person. When we find someone who is having negative thoughts in a difficult situation, we need to remind ourselves that we are the only ones who can help them come back to his positivity. It is possible for us to do this only when our own thoughts are positive. When we train our mind in this way we will be able to maintain our own positivity which will enable the other person also to be rid of his worries.”

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How are you feeling these days?

Many people are feeling a little afraid and unsure of the future these days because they expect  recession  to take a big bite out of their earnings, savings and overall lifestyle. They close their fists and cut off the life giving energies that flows through everything on the planet and from themselves and their fears become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

I was looking at an Oprah Show the other evening and there were people lamenting the fact that they have become lower class and now shop at the Dollar Store and Zellers instead of the upscale department store.

Then there was this young film star, I cannot remember her name, who had to remove both her breasts because she has the cancer gene and one of her breasts was already cancerous. She said she phoned a friend who also was a cancer survivor and the friend told her that it was a blessing that she had cancer, that now she can remake her life all over. Once you are hit with a disease that can take you out you change the way you look at life. You become more grateful for each day, you watch what you eat, you exercise more, you make sure you develop a positive outlook and all that good stuff.  There are thousands of people out in the world, living with the AIDS virus, with cancer, diabetes and look at Michael J Fox who has survived more than 10 year with Parkinson and has not allowed it to stop him from living.  There is also the saying that when you get lemon you make lemon aid, meaning you have to life the life you have and not the one you want.

The point is people are depressed about the economy because they listen to the news and to negative people. If there was no news and we lived our lives doing the things we have always done we would not be so scared. The economy needs fear to grow and thrive.  They tell us things are getting bad, the sky is falling and we react by spending more money on drugs to calm our nerves and these fears impact the entire economy.  It is our fears that have brought us to where we are today, nothing else.

The business world will take care of itself. You take care of you.  When you hear that big businesses are going bankrupt it does not mean that the rich are eating peanut butter  sandwiches. It means they might have to sell one of their 10 cars, or one of their yachts or something like that. Do not react to fear, trust in the universe to take care of your needs as it has always done and it will.

Maybe you have lost your job and may have to sell your house but you still have your health and creativity. When you have your health you have everything so do not jeopardize that.  Keep on living your life as if your needs are all met and they will be met. You have to have faith, you have to keep fear far away from you. The universe does not understand fear because fear is not part of its make up. Fear is something you have manufactured in yourself. If fear helped anyone I would be the first to say embrace it but it does nothing to you but bring you more grief. So get on with the business of living a happy life which you were meant to live.

Tips on living a fear-free life

1.  Stop listening to bad news - turn off your tv for a while
2.  Stay away from negative people

3.  Find a reason to laugh everyday

4.  Focus on what you have instead of what you lack

5.  Be grateful for life and health - give thanks everyday for your blessings

6.  Keep a gratitude journal

7.  Exercise - go for walks in the park and enjoy what nature offers

8.  Meditate every day

9.  Cook your meals and eat healthy

10. Be generous to those who have less than you have.

Are you struggling to find your dream job or to find just a job?

In these hard economic times, some people say that things are looking really glum. They apply for job and rarely get called for an interview even though they are well qualified.

What’s holding you back, my friend? The Great Spirit of the Universe or God always takes care of those who depend on him and trust Her that their needs will be met.  As Joel Osteen said in one of his Sunday messages of hope, there is always Sunday is coming. Do not despair about a job or worry – worrying brings on more negativity and negativity begets negativity and as soon as you approach the interviewer all he or she can see in you is your desperation and your negative energy even though you may try to hide it.  Having real confidence – not fake – is one of the keys to success and here are a few tips you can use to increase your chances of success

1.         Know what you are worth and know what you know.

2.         Know what are your strengths, your weaknesses and what needs improving.  These are questions that always come up in interviews. Many people are afraid to admit to weakness but that could be your strength in an interview e.g. of weakness could be workaholic; inability to balance work and home life.

3.         Be careful of what you say and write about on social networking sites, make surethat they are in sync with your values and your personal integrity. Careless words could come back to bite you;

4.         Emails can also be damaging. Do not hit reply-all and send jokes or funny itemsto friends – a potential employer can be among that group and the particular item  may be unsavory.  Don’t be fooled into thinking that you can maintain your    anonymity on the World Wide Web – there are ears and eyes watching all the   time.

6.         Find someone you admire and trust to be your mentor and introduce you to       potential employers and/or people of influence. The saying is still true, it’s not only what you know but more importantly is who you know.

7.         Internship often leads to job so try and find an organization that would allow youto do a stint as an intern even if it is without pay – this can open doors.

8.         Believe in yourself and your abilities and trust in the Great Spirit.

Good luck.

The world is a beautiful friendly place

Those of us who have life and are healthy are fortunate.  Life is good and when we open up to life it opens up to us in all its splendour

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Are you a Grudge Bin?

It would be a miracle if we should go through lifewithout being hurt by someone? People we love and don't h love hurt us every day but we have to forget about it and move on if we want to live our best live and want to live it fully.

  When we attract grudges in our hearts, it weighs us down not the person we are holding grudges against. I want you to experience inner peace and to do that you have to to release grudges not for anyone but for yourself. Put down that burden and be grateful that you are a better person in spite of the the wrongs others may have done to you. This may be difficult but send the people who have wronged you a special blessing to thank them for being one of the teachers in your life.

If you believe in God , higher powr, supreme being  or whatever you choose to name that energy that connects us all, know that it is good and wants us to feel good. Our natural state is to feel good so throw off the cloak of history and live in the moment and create the moment of your life.  Past hurts and wrongs are like history lessons fromwhich we should learn and move on not to be re-enacted on a daily basis.

Here are a few tips to help you:

- Remember the past is your history

- your past does not define you

- Your past has helped you to become the person you are

- You are in charge

- You need to change the way you think as negative thoughts beget negative thoughts that keep you in that dark space;

- the grudge you carry is hurting your own sense of well being. I heard this analogy on televison which says it all, carrying a grudge is like drinking rat poison and expect someone else to die.

Live fully embrace your new freedom and run with the wind.  Enjoy every walking moment,  feel the power of life in your veins and know you have everything.  If you still do not believe it , just look at Farrah Fawcett and think again.

What's beneath your anger

Have you felt anger, really felt the fire that burns your heart, confuse your tongue so that words do not come and in frustration you might burst into tears?  It is no accident that anger and tears are intertwined. Anger is the flip side of hurt.  When we are hurt and we try to deny it we get angry and try to overcompensate for our hurt by hurting the one who is making us sad or who has disappointed us or hit out at those closest to us  who may have had no direct involvement with what’s eating away at us.

      There have been many media reports about women being hurt by the men who supposedly love them.  Those men are broken spirited people – this is not an excuse, it is a fact.  They try to protect themselves by using power and force to ensure that they are not hurt.  In their private moments they cry and ache and can’t understand why they behave the way they do. It is the reason why counseling could be helpful to abusers. Counseling peels away the various facades we use to cover up our raw feelings and helps us to face them and get to the bottom of them and find ways in which to cope and to deal with those feelings. 

    I think that during this journey we call life, there is a surety that we will be hurt but most of us are born with some sort of inner resources to deal with these everyday occurrences or stumbling blocs in our lives but some of us are not. We take on little hurts and they pile up into one big heap that weighs on us and makes us suffer and feel so bad about ourselves.

    People who can afford it visit a counselor or a psychiatrist regularly, not because they are having a crisis but just to check in, so to speak.  I believe everyone should have access to counseling services because this was something friends used to do in the past but these days everyone is so busy with their lives that finding a friend to truly listen to you and support you could be challenging. Many of us believe we have too much on our plates and do not have time to listen to other peoples’ problems. That is why a counselor should be accessible to both the poor and the rich.

    A counselor is trained to listen in a nonjudgmental way and offer feedback through such techniques as rephrasing, clarifying and probing to become conscious of our own feeling.

     If you want to live fully you have to look your anger in the face, turn it over and see the underbelly and find out what is hurting you so badly.  Is it something that happened in your childhood, the way you were bullied or teased at school? The way your parents never supported anything you did but put you down all the time maybe because you were a little slower than your older brother whom they favored over you.  Most of the time when we are angry and hurt  - these are as a result of deep-seated hurt usually from childhood that result in us developing  low-self esteem, unhappiness and at odds with the world and all that is in it.  Talk to someone, or ask yourself what am I angry about? The answer will come. Take care of the hurt  and show yourself some compassion.

The Promise of Spring

Springtime is full of promise

Of flowers, peas, berries and squashes

Warm hot days, barbecues and trips to the lake

Summer ice cream and banana milkshake

Walking on the streets bareback bare feet

Violets, roses, and fragrance smelling sweet

Feet to earth earth to feet fuse in ecstasy

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Springtime comes just in time to shake off

Winters cobwebs just when we’ve had enough

The ice melts and grass begin to grow

Green carpet pushing away remnants of snow

We kick up our heels laugh our heads off silly

As spring presents us with pastels in lily

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Springtime is like a wonderful miracle

 Nature wakes up from winter’s debacle

Not knowing what surprise lies beneath the garden

Waiting to spring up to create our own little eden

This journey of death and rebirth is so mystical

Because it is journey is constantly cyclical

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