Human rights legislation covers unreasonable discrimination and harassment in the workplace based on one of the protected grounds such as age, race, disability, sex etc. However, most of the harassment that people experience in the workplace are not human rights but personal harassment by an incompetent boss or by someone who is tripping all over his or her ego that they feel it necessary to belittle others in order to feel powerful and important. These people can make a hell of a person’s work life. These are the most insidious types of harms workers feel in the workplace. When you are an employee some bosses like to treat you in ways they cannot treat their own children. They want to tell you what to do and how to do it and call you names such as idiot, dumb, sicko, stupid and the worse kinds of swear words they use at you when they cannot get their way. Where do people go with that? You may be able to take the matter to court but how many can afford to do so. You feel you are in a no-win situation. You may love your job and do not want to move but how do you live in such a toxic, inhospitable and demeaning environment. The truth is you can’t, you will either die, have a nervous breakdown, or do harm to your boss – all untenable situations. In any workplace, you will find that some people get bullied more than others. There are some people that the boss would not dream to tangle with those are the people who are confident and wise and their body language say, I respect myself.
1. First rule respect yourself
2. Second rule do your job to the best of your ability
3. When you respect yourself others will respect you and you will not be tempted to turn yourself into a doormat and give others the permission to walk all over you.
4. Regardless of what type of job you do carry yourself in a professional manner
5. We all make mistakes and if you make a mistake, own up to it in a dignified manner and promise to do better next time. Do not get into a shouting or argument match with a boss chances are you will not win. Just keep saying “I hear what you’re saying” “I understand the impact my mistake may have but I promise to do better next time”. This approach will give you the upper hand and in the end your boss might apologize to you for over re-acting.
5. Your employer keeps records about you. I suggest you keep a record of your employer/supervisor. Take a minute each day to record something that stuck out for you that day.
6. If you are not sure of something ask questions. Contrary to what some might say, there are no stupid questions.
7. Do not engage in workplace gossip. You can be cordial and friendly but maintain your professionalism.
9. If your boss tries to speak to you in a tone unbecoming remind your boss politely but firmly, you are an employee not a child. Let your employer knows you will appreciate it if he or she would address you like an intelligent adult. Find out if there is a respectful workplace policy. If your boss’ behaviour does not conform is there another level you can discuss your concerns with. If you are unionized then it will be the work of the union to grieve such matters for you but if not you have to depend on human resources. Your records will come in handy.
10. Your sanity is worth more than money. I know, I know you have to live. God, the Universe, the Creator will take care of that. All you have to do is to make a decision to leave with all your marbles in tact. Have faith that when a door closes another one opens up you have to have faith and live in faith that all things happen to you for your benefit.
Affirmation: I love and respect myself because I am worth it.