Are you one for holding grudges? Why do you hold on to your grudges? How does it make you feel? Do you think holding on to your grudges in some way hurt the people about whom you may hold such grudges? If your answer to any of these questions is yes, you are absolutely wrong.
When we hold on to grudges we stop growing and manifesting success in our lives. Instead of paying attention to our own growth we become obsessed with someone else’s life. We put more importance on the begrudged person or persons than on ourselves. They fill our thoughts and upset our balance and keep us in the shadows of negative energies. We become uninteresting to others because our negativities cloud our natural shine.
Why do we hold these useless grudges? It is because we are operating from a position of limitation and scarcity instead of freedom and abundance. We envy others’ success, happiness and achievements. Sometimes we hold on to grudges because we feel powerless and insecure. For example when our supervisors or bosses reprimand us unfairly instead of esaying to our bosses "I think you are being unfair," we retreat in a corner and sulk. We may plot ways of sabotaging our bosses, start backbiting about them with colleagues and friends thus digging ourselves deeper in a deep hole. We dig ourselves in so deep that we feel smaller than ever. We feel smaller because we know what we are doing is wrong. Our conscience never lie to us.
If you feel that it is useless to respond to a boss who might be a bully then put the problem where it belongs, on your boss and leave it there. Don’t carry that problem on your back. It does not belong to you. At times like these you have to fortify your internal resources – truth, integrity, love for your self, and understand that your bosses’ handicap is his not yours.
What a person thinks of you good or bad does not define who you are. It defines the person who is making the judgement. You and you alone can define who you are. You do so through your actions, integrity, living your truth fully and faithfully.
When you live honestly you are willing to admit any shortcomings, you are willing to learn from your mistakes and accept the advice you get as coming from a good place. When you adopt that positive attitude you are less likely to carry or hoard grudges that weigh down your spirit. Without grudges you soar and you grow and your likeability factor increases because your spirit shines through.
Meditation
Today I will put down the grudges I carry and lighten my spirit. I live honestly and fully.
