A co-worker who is on a term position and desperately trying to get her foot in the door at her placement office is coming to the end of the line with no job in sight. She is panicking and because of this frame of mind negativity is creeping into her framework. She has given up hope and does not feel there is anything she can do.
However, from the first day this co-worker started at the office she was told to start applying for jobs as there might not be a job available at the location she is but to use the time wisely. Well she never did choosing to put all her eggs in one basket and hoped that a job will come up where she is at the end of her term. She lost in her gamble as she was told there is no vacancy. Now she blames the boss for not training her and not trying hard enough. She goes around sulking and perhaps making her boss feel uncomfortable and unappreciated. What is wrong with this picture?
This worker has created her own circumstances by not following sound advice. She took the risk and has to live with it. Instead of blaming she ought to take responsibility and be nice to her boss, thanking him for giving her good advice which she did not follow. By accepting responsibility for her circumstances her boss will be more inclined to sympathise with her and may even go out of his way to call in a favour or two on her behalf to get her placed in another office if not the one she is in.
Taking responsibility for our circumstances, understanding that whatever happens to us is as a result of our own actions and not someone else's is important. There is choice in every decision we make and don't forget that. Life is a series of choice, conscious or unconscious choices.
Taking responsibility opens the way for the other person to be generous, to be kind and more helpful. When the day appears cloudy on the horizon, put a smile on your face, it costs nothing. People are attracted to positive vibes and repelled by negative vibes. When we are positive, life is lighter and sweeter and we develop the resources to withstand any setback and these are only setbacks to the positive person.
